Seminary is a place of deep formation, equipping future priests with theological knowledge and pastoral training. It prepares them for sacramental ministry, preaching, and shepherding a community. However, priestly life also brings challenges that no classroom can fully capture. Many young priests step into their first assignments with enthusiasm, only to be met with unexpected realities that test their adaptability and wisdom. The title of this article is inspired by John Killinger’s Seven Things They Don’t Teach You in Seminary. However, this article does not discuss the topics covered in his book. The title is simply meant to draw attention and spark curiosity. It does not imply that seminaries fail to address these aspects. In fact, these topics are part of seminary formation. However, the deeper, lived understanding of these realities often comes only through personal experience in ministry. With that in mind, here are ten crucial lessons that every priest must remember in his priestly ministry.
1. Update Your Knowledge
Ordination is not the end of a priest’s education. Theological, pastoral, and social issues continue to evolve, requiring priests to stay informed. Regular reading, attending seminars, and engaging with contemporary issues ensure that a priest remains relevant and well-equipped to guide his people. Intellectual stagnation can lead to pastoral ineffectiveness. Different church documents outline the framework for priestly formation and emphasizes the need for ongoing formation throughout a priest’s life. They state that priests must continually update their intellectual and pastoral formation to remain effective in their ministry. Therefore, the priests are encouraged to engage in regular study, attend formation programs, and stay informed about current issues affecting the Church and society.
2. Homilies: Let Scripture and Personal God Experience Speak
Many young priests today excel in rhetorical techniques, crafting homilies that are engaging, eloquent, and rich with literary references, moral stories, and stylistic flourishes. While such homilies may capture attention and even earn praise from the faithful, they often fail to bring about true conversion of heart. The emotional appeal may be strong, but if the message lacks depth and spiritual authenticity, it risks becoming merely a performance rather than a vehicle for transformation. The ultimate goal of preaching is not just to impress but to inspire a deeper relationship with God.
To achieve this, priests must first cultivate a profound personal experience of God. A homily that flows from genuine faith and personal encounter with the Divine carries an authority that no rhetorical device can match. Rather than relying excessively on external sources, priests should root their preaching in Sacred Scripture and the lives of saints, allowing these to illuminate and guide their message. When the Word of God is proclaimed not just with skill but with conviction and lived experience, it has the power to penetrate hearts, awaken faith, and bring about lasting spiritual renewal.
3. A Clean Church and Sacristy Reflect Reverence
The church is not just a building; it is a sacred space where people come to encounter God. Maintaining cleanliness and order in the church fosters an atmosphere of peace, calmness, and divine presence, helping the faithful pray with greater devotion. A well-kept church does not require extravagant decorations, but it should always be neat and dignified. Regularly removing dust and cobwebs, ensuring that pews and altars are clean, and keeping the surroundings free from litter all contribute to creating a spiritually uplifting environment. Even small details, such as maintaining an organized notice board with updated announcements, show attentiveness and care. If possible, a simple but beautiful garden in the courtyard can add to the sense of serenity, making the church more inviting for prayer and reflection.
The sacristy is where sacred objects and vestments are stored, and it should be treated with the reverence it deserves. A cluttered and disorganized sacristy diminishes the sense of respect for the sacred. Proper storage spaces should be designated for vestments, liturgical books, and vessels, ensuring that everything is arranged neatly and is easily accessible. Cleanliness and order in the sacristy reflect the dignity of the priestly ministry and contribute to the seamless execution of the liturgy. When the sacristy is well-maintained, it allows those serving at the altar to focus on their sacred duties without unnecessary distractions.
4. An Ordered Space Reflects an Ordered Life
A priest’s room or office is often a reflection of his inner life and discipline. Unfortunately, many priests neglect their personal spaces, allowing them to become cluttered, dusty, and disorganized. Books, files, papers, and personal belongings are often scattered without order, creating an environment that lacks both aesthetic beauty and functionality. An untidy and chaotic living or working space can unconsciously affect a priest’s mindset and efficiency, leading to unnecessary distractions and inefficiency in ministry. Keeping one’s room and office neat and well-organized fosters a sense of peace and discipline, which naturally extends to pastoral work. Even if the space is small and lacks luxury, an orderly arrangement can make it more welcoming and dignified. When a priest’s surroundings are clean, it creates a positive impression on visitors and parishioners, reinforcing the message that details matter in ministry. A well-kept space is not just about appearances, it cultivates a structured and intentional way of living, which ultimately strengthens pastoral effectiveness and personal well-being.
A priest’s residence is not merely a private home, it is a place of welcome. Bishops, fellow priests, seminarians, and parishioners may occasionally require accommodation, sometimes at short notice. Having a clean and ready guest room ensures that one is always prepared to receive visitors with warmth and generosity. Hospitality is a vital part of priestly life, and a well-kept space reflects an open heart. A priest who takes care to provide a comfortable and orderly environment for guests embodies the spirit of Christian charity, making others feel at home and valued.
5. Keep your Documents UpToDate
Maintaining up-to-date parish documents is a critical responsibility entrusted to every parish priest, yet it is a duty that many struggle to fulfil consistently. To ensure seamless administration, daily diligence is essential. Parish registers documenting sacraments, the chronicle recording key events, financial audits, land ownership records, tax filings, and bank-related documents all require regular attention and timely updates. By prioritizing this task daily, the priest safeguards the parish’s operational integrity, legal compliance, and historical accuracy. Neglecting these records risks administrative chaos, financial mismanagement, or disputes, whereas consistent upkeep fosters transparency, accountability, and a reliable institutional legacy for future generations.
6. Self-Care and Avoiding Burnout
Priestly ministry is a life of self-sacrifice, but it should not lead to self-destruction. Many priests experience burnout due to excessive workloads, lack of rest, and emotional stress, ultimately affecting their pastoral effectiveness. Taking care of one’s physical health, setting boundaries, and finding time for personal renewal are not signs of weakness but necessities for a sustainable vocation. A priest who neglects his well-being cannot fully serve his people with the energy and joy that ministry demands. Prioritizing self-care ensures that a priest remains physically, emotionally, and spiritually strong to carry out his mission.
Maintaining healthy food habits and engaging in regular physical exercise are not optional but essential aspects of priestly life. Just as prayer sustains the soul, a healthy body enables a priest to serve cheerfully and effectively. Living in areas with extreme climatic conditions requires additional attention to clothing, diet, and healthcare. Ignoring these aspects can lead to unnecessary health issues that could hinder one’s ministry. A well-cared-for priest is better equipped to care for his flock, making self-care not just a personal responsibility but also a pastoral necessity.
7. Evangelizing in the Digital Age
The digitalization of parish documents and administration is no longer optional, it is essential for efficiency and organization. Properly maintaining digital records ensures that parish activities, sacramental registers, and financial accounts are systematic and easily accessible. However, a common issue in many parishes is inconsistency; one parish priest may initiate digitalization efforts, only for his successor to neglect or abandon them, rendering previous work ineffective. Continuity in digital management is crucial for maintaining order and ensuring smooth parish operations. A well-organized digital system not only simplifies administrative tasks but also allows priests to focus more on their pastoral mission.
Beyond administration, digital platforms have become an important mission field. Many, especially the younger generation, engage with faith primarily through online spaces. Priests who utilize social media, websites, and AI-assisted tools can extend their pastoral reach far beyond the physical church walls. Regularly updating the parish’s Facebook or Instagram pages, sharing reels or short videos about parish activities, and using digital tools for communication and evangelization can significantly enhance engagement. While traditional ministry remains vital, embracing digital evangelization ensures that the Church remains relevant and accessible in the modern world.
8. Helping People Through Crisis Situations
Priests are often the first people parishioners turn to in moments of crisis, whether it be grief, addiction, family breakdown, abuse, or suicidal thoughts. While theology provides a moral framework, practical pastoral care is essential in these situations. A priest must know how to listen deeply, offer comfort, and provide guidance without judgment. In moments of loss, such as the death of a parishioner, simply being present with the grieving family and offering necessary assistance can bring immense consolation. Similarly, couples struggling in their marital relationship need not only moral teachings but also patient accompaniment and support.
Compassionate pastoral care extends to all, including those struggling with personal identity, mental health, or societal rejection. People with different sexual orientations or transgender tendencies may seek understanding and guidance from the Church. A priest’s role is not to judge but to be a compassionate presence, helping them find their dignity and worth in God’s love. At times, the best pastoral approach is to refer individuals to professional counsellors or support groups when needed. More than having all the answers, a priest’s greatest gift in crisis situations is being a source of comfort, hope, and understanding.
9. Dealing with Loneliness and Emotional Needs
Mental well-being is just as important as physical health in priestly life. The priesthood, especially for diocesan priests, can often be isolating due to the absence of a personal family and the demanding nature of ministry. Without strong relationships, loneliness can take a toll, leading to emotional exhaustion and, in extreme cases, even despair. In recent times, the Church has witnessed tragic instances of priests and religious taking their own lives, highlighting the urgent need for emotional and psychological support. No priest should feel like he has to carry the burdens of ministry alone.
Building meaningful friendships and maintaining strong bonds with fellow clergy are essential for emotional support and spiritual well-being. Fraternity among priests provides a space for encouragement, understanding, and shared experiences. Friendships of all kinds, whether with peers, mentors, or even those outside the clergy, play a crucial role in maintaining a balanced life. However, maturity in relationships is necessary to ensure that these bonds remain healthy and supportive. A priest who nurtures his emotional well-being through strong and wholesome relationships will be better equipped to serve his people with joy and resilience.
10. Ministering in a Multi-Religious and Secular Society
In today’s world, religious tensions, fundamentalism, and hostility between communities are on the rise. A priest must not allow himself to be influenced by such divisions but must instead be a bridge-builder, promoting harmony and understanding. Pope Francis, in Fratelli Tutti, reminds us of the need for fraternity and dialogue, emphasizing that differences should not lead to enmity but should enrich human relationships. A priest’s role is to foster peace, engage in respectful interfaith dialogue, and help his community see beyond religious barriers to recognize the dignity of every person as a child of God.
Conclusion
Seminary provides the foundation, but real priesthood is learned in the field. While theological knowledge and liturgical training are essential, pastoral ministry demands much more, practical skills, emotional intelligence, adaptability, and deep spiritual maturity. A priest must be not only a preacher and a teacher but also a counsellor, administrator, and leader. He must navigate conflicts, engage with modern technology, care for his well-being, and continuously grow in knowledge. These lessons are often learned the hard way, but awareness of these realities can help priests prepare better for the challenges ahead. Ultimately, priesthood is not about perfection but about faithfulness. Those who embrace these lessons with humility and openness will find themselves not only surviving but thriving in their vocation, serving God’s people with joy and effectiveness.
